In a webinar I attended a while back, the participants were invited to embark on a slow, intentional walk for 20 minutes. We were to move at a pace where we could notice small details, like ants on the ground or tiny acorns. Gathering small objects we noticed or were drawn to was encouraged. This was to be a mindful meandering, an opportunity to tune into our systems and what’s around us.
To be honest, I didn’t follow the directions exactly because, well, I still had other commitments to meet for the day. (Yes, I still try to do too many things at once.) But, I made a conscious effort to perform those tasks slowly and mindfully. My five-minute chore of letting the horses out and readying the morning feed stretched to over 10 minutes as I unhurriedly enjoyed their presence. When I sauntered back to the house, I even did the dishes slowly.
Settling back into my chair as the group returned, I was amazed at how fully grounded and connected with myself in a new way. It was a beautiful wholeness that words can’t fully describe.
Others shared their experiences and the meaningful things they picked up along the way. My heart softened toward one participant who found herself feeling “sad and alone” on her walk.
An important relationship in her life is ending and, in slowing down, she noticed Grief come alongside her. For many, this is an unwelcome visitor, but she courageously engaged with Grief and allowed it to dissipate. Even though it was unpleasant, she recognized that “feeling it all” was important to healing.
Is it any wonder we stay busy busy busy?
Those big emotions like grief, fear, and anxiety can feel overwhelming, but avoiding them doesn’t make them disappear. They continue to simmer beneath the surface, waiting to be acknowledged. Whether it’s been a long time since we’ve recognized them or we’ve never dared to, these emotions can feel immense.
The key to navigating big emotions is baby steps.
Taking small, deliberate action with self-compassion and attention to my body has been the key difference. I’ve spent plenty of time trying to “hurry up and heal” so I can do what I’m meant to do or get on with my life. It takes the time it takes, but I’ve progressed more by slowing down, noticing, and celebrating the small wins.
I love my work with generous, caring women, mostly entrepreneurs and moms, who want to slow down but don’t know how or feel guilty or afraid to do so. They are self-aware and curious, wanting to be and do differently, but don’t know how. Most have tried talk therapy and/or other alternative therapies and are beginning to see–or at least curious about– the value of incorporating the body into their healing journey.
If you desire a better relationship with yourself to improve your relationships with others, let’s have a conversation. This work isn’t for everyone, but I’m honored to hold space for those ready to honor themselves.
If you happen to live near the Fort Worth area of Texas– or want your own personal retreat, I invite you to work with me and my horses on our property in Weatherford.
Remember, the path to self-discovery and healing starts with one small, intentional step. Embrace the beauty of going slow, for within it lies a world of profound transformation and self-acceptance.
